Emma reflects on how she’s building her confidence.
Confidence is something I’ve always struggled with. I’ve often doubted my abilities because I find it difficult to believe in myself. So, this year I decided it was time to challenge this, by channelling a new, more positive mindset. I want to have the confidence to try new things, take risks and achieve my goals.
So, what am I doing to build my confidence?
I’m using more positive self-talk. Instead of putting myself and my achievements down, I’m actively choosing to talk more positively to myself. By focusing on what I’ve done well, instead of noticing the small parts I didn’t do so well, I’m able to have a more positive outlook. I know I’m not always successful with this, but I’m trying! When I have a negative thought, I take the time to challenge it. I ask myself, ‘Is what I’m thinking truthful? Am I being fair to myself?’
As a part of this, I’m ensuring that I’m celebrating my successes. When I achieve one of my goals, or I notice that I’ve been more positive, I take the time to celebrate myself and my achievements. For me, I usually treat myself to something, or even just bask in my moment of success.
I’m also choosing to step out of my comfort zone more often. I’m challenging and stretching myself. The more risks I take and the more I’m in the stretch zone, the more I’ll become used to it and my confidence will naturally build. It’s important to not set yourself up for failure. Start off with small, achievable goals and work your way up. Everyone makes mistakes, so it’s important not to beat yourself up at every little thing that may go wrong.
One thing that’s important for building confidence is surrounding yourself with the right people. I’ve found that when I’m around the right people, they help my confidence to grow and truly want to help me develop. It’s important to find out who these people are and surround yourself with their positivity and support. Knowing that I have people I can ask for help makes difficult times a lot easier.
Finally, I try not to compare myself to others as it not only knocks my confidence but makes me feel worse about myself. Everyone is different and has their own strengths and weaknesses.
I’ve found that building confidence takes time. I’m not there yet myself, but I’m heading in the right direction, and that’s the most important part!
What do you do to build your confidence?