This is about a girl on a train, but not the girl in the book (and subsequent box-office hit film). It’s about the impression a girl on a train made.
There’s a girl (probably in her early twenties so I think that’s a girl) sitting opposite me on the train, using her phone. There are a few expletives but that’s sadly not unusual in regular conversations these days. The trolley man comes and he’s a cheery trolley man, calling out his wares.
Trolley man: Teas, coffees, biscuits, sandwiches…?
Girl on the train: What chocolate bars do you do?
Trolley man: I’ve got Twix, Kit-kat, Mars (other brands are available) …
Girl on train: I’ll have a Kit-kat.
Trolley man: There you are. That’ll be 65p please. (May have been a different amount.)
Girl on train hands over a one pound coin and takes the proffered Kit-kat.
Trolley man: Thank you. There’s 35p change. (Hands over the change)
Girl on train takes change.
So, in case you hadn’t noticed, no please or thank-you from the girl. Now, I know it’s wrong to judge people on such a small amount of evidence but I would be lying if I said I hadn’t started to form an opinion of her that was influenced by her lack of manners. It’s human nature to make instinctive decisions about people. Sometimes that can be a helpful thing, like having a gut instinct https://humanrightsfilmnetwork.org/tramadol that someone can’t be trusted. At other times we might be creating an unfair view.
The girl’s phone rang again and I overheard her talking about a broken down car, that she’d be late home, and no, she hadn’t had anything to eat except the Kit-kat she’d just bought with her last pound. Whilst there’s little excuse for no manners, this poor girl had clearly had a bad day, but the view I was forming of her was from her first impression on me. It made me realise the power of the first impression which can take just seven seconds. What can you do to make it a good one? Here’s my starter for ten (or six; feel free to add your own suggestions to the list):
- take a quick look in the mirror before leaving the house – wearing clean clothes that fit properly and don’t look like you’ve slept in them is always a good start
- smile, even if you don’t feel like it (who doesn’t warm to someone with a lovely smile?)
- be on time
- be prepared
- relax and be you
- be courteous and remember your p’s and q’s (yes, that’s the one about manners)
And just to put my money where my mouth is, thank you for taking the time out of your busy day to read my blog!